Why does self care feel challenging to start?
Written by
Tran Quang
Reviewed by
Prof. Graham Pierce, Ph.D.Initiating a self-care routine often feels difficult due to common perceived notions. Many perceive it as taking too much time or feeling selfish. These mental barriers inhibit progress. I struggled with guilt over self-focus at first. Awareness of these barriers is the first step forward.
Time Misconceptions
- Myth: Self care needs hours of commitment daily
- Truth: Five-minute practices deliver real benefits
- Solution: Start with micro-habits like breathing exercises
- Example: Stretch during TV commercials
Guilt and Prioritization
- Myth: Focusing on yourself neglects others
- Truth: Your capacity to help increases with self care
- Solution: Reframe self care as necessary maintenance
- Example: Hydrate before assisting family needs
"The fear of being less than perfect can stop you dead in your tracks. Waiting for conditions to be perfect means you never start. I started my self-care regimen in the midst of a hectic, crazy workday! Join the imperfection club. Better imperfect consistency than delayed perfection! Realize that some days are better than others. Just keep showing up."
Start with accountability, not intensity. Tell a supportive friend your goals. I partnered with my sister so we could check in with each other on a daily basis. Please keep track of your progress on a calendar somewhere you'll see it. Little wins boost your confidence. The momentum will come from repeated small steps, not grand gestures.
Modify your expectations seasonally. Parenting responsibilities and work deadlines require considerable adaptability. My self-care routine is half as long during busy periods. Instead of 30 minutes, I might do five-minute practices. It is easier to be adaptable than to abandon a practice altogether when things get challenging.
Your wellness requires continual investment. Find one practice you can begin today, and begin. The resistance will diminish as the benefits begin to manifest themselves. I felt far more vibrant within three days of starting. That form of positive reinforcement will lead to enduring change.
Read the full article: 10 Essential Self Care Routine Practices
